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i need some advice,i would like to try it with a mare or a pony mare.i have not got my own mares as live in a city.give your advice.how can i find an opportunity to be with a mare?should i join a club. join a trail tiding club. or perhaps a riding school?is there any voluntary work with horses?please give me advice regarding usa, australia and new zealand. ponymare_rider9yahoo.com
well, personally i worked on a breeding farm in high school and college...gave me alot of access. A club is ok, but you probably wont be able to visit at night.
I am in the same situation but the horses here are too off limits. There multi millon dollar racers and breeders, I'd get litterly get shot for anything I did to them.
This theme really does come up an awful lot.The reason I bring it up is that I have always worked in an industrial part of large cities. I moved every two to four years, and travelled sometimes as often as six or even ten months at a time, and generally for about 2/3rds of the year I was out of town. Yet I have never really found myself in a situation where I really actually could not at all keep a pet. I think I might have some insight on how I did it, and that might help those of you who just can't seem to make this work.Often people will ask for access to another persons animals. Often the reason they need that access is they can't have an animal themselves. It might help a lot for you to ask yourself why you don't have that access. I'm noticing many people do travel a lot. Some people have little money. Many people will claim it is the location they live in that is the problem. Others still have the means, but family or friends object. If you determine what the obstacle really is you should have a better chance of over coming that problem. Other people I noticed really are torn as to whether or not they really think having a companion is right. Lots of reasons come up for this as well, including fearing they will become too attached, fearing they cannot provide the care or companionship that animal needs, fear of the opinion or more often the actions of friends and family, and very often they just plain old don't want the responsibility. They just want to have fun and have someone else take the expense and trouble of care. Finally, people often just want to test the waters. They don't know what they really want. They don't know what they can or cannot do. They don't want the commitment. By knowing what is actually holding you back you should have a better chance of overcoming your obstacles.Living and working in the city is just simply not a true problem. Stables for horses are aways available. Many stables are happy to welcome more "exotic" livestock as well. Goats, sheep, alpacas, donkeys, pigs, cattle, and yes, even your dog while you are out of town are often welcome in my experience. Apartments are also generally not a problem for keeping dogs. There is actually an advantage to keeping animals while living in the city: often the management plan is already half drawn up for you. The down side is you have to be willing to front the money for these services, and since you are being watched, you have to be diligent about up keep. Also, unaltered pets are almost always frowned upon. You need to be very choosey about where you live or board to be comfortable. In this persons case, there is no problem at all. No one will question a mare moving into a stables. Consider your management plan carefully, and consider your living and boarding arrangements carefully. There really is, however, very little problem with siply living in the city.Living with others? That can be more of a challenge. Compromises are made every day. What is in it for them if you get a dog? What sacrifices will they have to make if you get a horse? You need to discuss it and not just assume. If they object you just have to decide whether that pet is more important or they are. Consider that ownership and companionship are lifestyles. You might need to change your lifestyle to make this work. Your family and friends might not be able or willing to do that. In that case, remember that you are an individual, and it is up to you. They really are stealing your identity if they object too strongly to who you are.The objections to care are totally valid. I completely understand that. However, consider what you are asking if you are asking for someone else to absorb the cost and care of another living thing because you don't think you can do it. I've seen this the most in the form of puppies, horses, and goats that people thought they wanted, and then just gave away when they got bored. My advice: don't do that. Figure out your management plan first, take on the lifestyle, and stick with it. You are just as capable of caring for that animal as I am. It isn't fair to me to ask to borrow my friend, whether for a Christmas parade or a breeding, without compensation, and not fair to any of us for you to abandon your responibility on my door step. Of course, maybe that is what you are of doing. Just determine your management plan, and stick with it.Travelling and moving for work has been the biggest pain in my butt for over twenty years. The hardest thing in the world to do is say goodbye to your best friend just because work says time to go. This really is something hard to handle, but I promise you can do it if you have a plan in place. Of course, this person has a huge advantage: a stables. Most of the care is done for him. His mare will be happy, and well cared for until his return. If he needs to move anywhere in the country, he can bring her with him. Outside the country, I'm sorry to say, not such an easy task. In fact, I've found that move impossible in most, but not all, cases. However, we had a cat that travelled with us to every country we ever lived in. It is not impossible. Dogs and cats are fairly easy to move, and very easy to board. Good boarding kennels are available just about anywhere. Again, unaltered males are frowned upon, but it isn't a deal breaker necessarily if you bring one in. Kennels and stables like money. And again, your doggie and horsey friends will be friends in deed in this case. Another bright side: if you are squeemish about the idea of someone else making love to your companion, consider this: I look for other gentle good hearted zoos to look after my animals when I go out of town. I'm certain none of them have ever had sex with any animal I owned. Of course, many people will provide this care, you just have to pay for it.There is also those who don't want the commitment. My advice here: this isn't for you. Think about it: if you want to just plain old have sex, just to see what it is like, do you just want to have sex with me to see what it is like? Becuase that is what you are doing. Sex is such a tiny, often nonexistant part of companion ownership, it really can't even be counted. What you need to consider is if you want to feed this animal, clean up after or her, keep it warm, and care for it when it is sick. What will the landlord say? What will your wife say? In this case, do you know how to ride or drive? Are you willing to learn? What are you going to do to improve the life of this animal? Just forget about sex. Really, anyone can get that.Like I said, there are just so many of these questions and requests, and I don't think you need another ethics lesson (although I did provide one a little. Sorry). Here are some suggestions that might do a better job at helping you ask the right questions to really make this happen. How expensive is it? How much time will it take? What am I really willing to sacrifice, and what am I really sacrificing for? What am I getting in return? What does commitment really mean? Think about these things, and ask these questions, and you will have a much better chance at the rewarding, sucessful relationship you want.
Why bump a seven and a half year old thread to write an answer that the OP is never likely to see?It's a great post but just seems a bit redundant.
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QUOTE (dirtbiker2000 @ Dec 3 2011, 02:13 PM) Why bump a seven and a half year old thread to write an answer that the OP is never likely to see?It's a great post but just seems a bit redundant. That's a very good question. I responded to this thread for several reasons. First of all, like I said, I see this problem constantly. Over and over, at least once a week, and for as long as I was aware of forums and discussions like this on the web. I get PM's, emails, and questions from people in person about this exact topic. I had this problem when I was only 19 or 20, but sucessful people as old as 60 have asked can they spend time with my animals. My question now is why? I certainly couldn't have had some advantage over them. I understand the need, but why does it exist? I looked it up.Furthermore, if there was ever a problem I ever personally had, it was this. I seems so obvious to someone that has a pet how to have one, but in reality it really, actually escapes people who don't have animals how to keep them. It really is not as obvious as it seems. I seldom ever read a good response to this question that provides tools the person needs to make the right choices.This particular thread was easy to answer, although the question is very difficult. What was important here was that there were three individuals, all with an identical problem, and no brainstorming for a solution provided. Moreover, it was easier to respond to this thread because there was nothing off topic for "how to find a mare" in the thread, and gave me a perfect opportunity to inject the companion question so lacking "How to keep a mare." Lastly, I'm lazy. It was the very last thread I found making this statement "I can't have an animal. How can I find one to use?" So it's old. In another ten years maybe someone will come across this thread again and find it useful, and that's alright.I intended to create new discussions, with new questions that are not addressed, based on this one question that is asked every day: "How do I find someone?" I believe the answer to the question "How do I keep one" will make how do I find one irrelevant, and promote wiser choices in the community. All I want to do it help.
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