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Hey folks So... I'm male. I'm so fortunate as to be in a relationship with the girl of my dreams.Whenever I'm with her, I feel complete. We also have the world's best sex-life, and after weekends at home I tend to be kind-of drained...My issue is, I'm zoo, but I can't tell her - because she seems to think sex with animals is disgusting. I joked about it once, having her and me and a dog, but she dismissed the idea - although we are planning on getting a dog relatively soon. A male..At the moment, we're in a long-distance relationship as I attend teachings very far away from her. She lives at home, doing her everyday business - while I study here.We happen to have a large amount of goats here, and this I had to try...I spent several nights in the goat-pen, sitting there and patting them - getting to know which like to toy around and which dislike people. Also checking their rear ends for sizes. I've been with 1 - a night after me and my girlfriend argued - but this wasn't entirely my thing. I mainly turn on dogs and horses, and I concider the getting a dog an oportunity... When I move in with her come this summer, we'll get a pup that I'll be the one training - as she only has experience with smaller animals. This pet will be a welcome distraction when the days go slowly and we work different shifts - although I don't feel like I'll be cheating on her it still feels somewhat... awkward... I love this girl above all else in the world, and I intend to marry her (she already said "yes"). I just hope she can some day understand me, when I do tell her / IF I do tell her - and it's a dream of mine that I get to experience her with an animal...I'm sickly jealous of other guys in her town, but she's 100% loyal - I still get jealous - the only being I could share her with is a dog...This goes out to all zoo's out there, what would you do in my situation?
Well friend, if what you say is true, then I think you are in a bad spot. One in which there is no good solution for. Truth be told if she is truly anti-zoo then there is little hope of changing her mind now or anytime in the future. I think your best bet is to keep your zoo life tightly under wraps at all times. And you need to realize that that may mean being animal celibate as it were. Sorry but them's the breaks when your in a relationship with someone who holds visceral and diametrically opposing view points to your own, with regard to your sexuality.
If I were you, I would tell her anyway. If she loves you, she will have to take into consideration that this is a part of you, and if she really loves you, she will have to be ok with that. Saying you love eachother truly is a flat out lie unless she can see you for ALL you are, in ALL your flaws, and still love and accept the person you are. And that means letting her in on all of those as well. Think about it this way: Do you want to be married to someone that doesn't really know who you are? Do you want to be with someone who only loves you for what you LET them see? Do you want to be in a long relationship with someone while forever hiding a secret that you KNOW could break you apart? That will weigh on you...But the fact is, she seems anti-zoo. I'm a firm believer that education and information can sway most biases with time, but even then, telling her may be painful. It may even end your relationship. But think about it, do you want to be with someone who would leave you over this without trying to get the full story or understanding what your position is?You have two options: Either completely forsake your zoo self, marry this girl, stay repressed, and forget your desire and love for animals. OR Tell her, risk your relationship and engagement, but also take the chance that maybe she can gain an understanding of it and love you for the real YOU rather than the you that you allow her to see.And what if in the future you get caught acting on your desires, if you try to have your cake and eat it too? How do you think she would see that? What do you think she would think or say? How HURT do you think she would be? I do not advise being with animals sexually if you are also going to be with this woman you love.What I am saying will not be popular. Others will not agree. But I am also engaged. I took that leap a few weeks into our relationship and told him what I was. He is now exploring his own possible zoo side and is a part of this forum. To me, love is about honestly knowing who the other person is and still seeing them as your dearest other self, despite and even because of their darker parts. Lying about yourself is not honesty...and not love.And that's all.
Be 100% honest with her. its not fair to her for you to keep it a secret. Would yo uwant her to keep smething about her active sex life a secret from you? If you dont think it will work out if you tell her then think abou tthe big picture. Would it really work long term if the both of you had to pick and choose what parts of yourselves you shared with the other? It doesn;t sound very healthy to me. Search the forum, There are alot of threds on this subject avalible. Regardless I wish you the best and good luck!
You have got to fess up (man up) and tell her. What would hurt her more - to learn you are a zoo and that she must either accept that or decide you are not her future OR to marry you now and later find out you either held out on her or lied to her? If you love this girl enough to give up your zoo self for the rest of your life then this must be a forever committment. Cheating on her will only turn out bad - Just ask Tiger Woods. If you are not sure you can give up your zoo self then thank her for her love as you tell her and move on, there are lots of single fish in the sea and amoung them you will find one to love you and accept your other side.
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QUOTE (cheeseyness @ Feb 21 2010, 04:33 AM) Think about it this way: Do you want to be married to someone that doesn't really know who you are? Do you want to be with someone who only loves you for what you LET them see? Do you want to be in a long relationship with someone while forever hiding a secret that you KNOW could break you apart? That will weigh on you... Thats exactly the reason I find I have little to no motivation to try and form any serious human love relationship. I don't want the secret and because of what I do I, I have to be very careful about telling someone.
QUOTE (dirtbiker2000 @ Feb 21 2010, 01:39 PM) QUOTE (cheeseyness @ Feb 21 2010, 04:33 AM) Think about it this way: Do you want to be married to someone that doesn't really know who you are? Do you want to be with someone who only loves you for what you LET them see? Do you want to be in a long relationship with someone while forever hiding a secret that you KNOW could break you apart? That will weigh on you... Thats exactly the reason I find I have little to no motivation to try and form any serious human love relationship. I don't want the secret and because of what I do I, I have to be very careful about telling someone. Same with me.If i ever settled down with anyone, they would have to be a zoo themselves, or have zoo tendances. I couldnt love someone, and live with them without them knowing, as i show my love far to open to my dogs when at home, and couldnt happily keep my guard up like that.Maybe oneday ill meet someone who can be this for me. But if not i know i can be perfectly happy and in love with my dogs
Only you can decide which way to go, there are many around here who for their own reasons will tell you to go one way or the other but the final decision is yours. The risk involved are that you could find yourself outed to the world ( you mentioned that when you joked about the subject of interspecies copulation she made her feelings very clear , take that as a warning ) You say that you like the pleasure of sexual contact with other species and would like her to participate as well (may be even a threesome ) is that what your wish, or is it voyeurism where you want to see your partner taken by the canine or become its slave ? Which ever you decide I wish you well.
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Hey mate,Thanks for letting us know how you feel. I'm in a similar position with my gf - she finds it disgusting, but our sex live is not that great - you can guess why Even though you feel you are not cheating on her when you are with an animal, consider her emotions on this. If you do marry her and she catches you she could feel like she is being cheated on - despite your protests... Is it worth it? That is what I am asking... It sounds like you could lose a lot.I can't give advise about what you should do - just consider the option that you could lean towards animals over humans later in life and what that would do to your marriage (assuming this is what you want). Could lead to a messy divorce. I know that I am unstable in my relationship because of the Zoo issue... It is a tough one and I am already fiercely independent which makes me lean towards being single. But love my gf heaps...There should be some more useful responses than me - but try not to hurt the ones you love
Personally, I'd get the dog and dump the girl but that's just me. Your girl doesn't approve of zoophilia. Telling her is highly likely to end your relationship anyway but you know her better than we do.Good luck. I think you are going to need it.LTD
Indeed, I do intend to tell her - but WITH TIME - although not before it's too late... I don't know what I'd do without her, and this is all starting to sound like a chiché xDHonestly, she's the best. With time, I think maybe I'd be able to introduce her to the idea of canine sex - after all, she is the one who want's a male dog. She'll experience him horny more than a dozen times ^^
QUOTE (Nerikai @ Feb 24 2010, 12:33 AM) .....after all, she is the one who want's a male dog. She'll experience him horny more than a dozen times ^^ But does she intend to get him neutered is the question. This relationship is something you need to think very carefully about. Theres a big difference between you having an interest in watching videos, having the desire to have regular sexual contact with an animal yourself and having the desire to watch her with an animal and this I think is where the problems may arise. I was, several years ago, in a relationship with a girl and getting on very well. I told her I was a zoo and to start with she wasn't happy with it but didn't mind. Then things just gradually went downhill until we split. 99% because of me being into animals. It can get ugly for sure and thats with someone good enough to not spread your secret everywhere when you do split. The thing is if she's really against it I don't see much chance of you persuading her to get it on with the dog. Most people don't see it Zoophilia like we do and even asking for tolerance to do it yourslef is huge let alone asking for active participation. But speak to her. If your really serious about a long term relationship with her then withholding some things and adding to your confession over time just puts extra straws on the camels back and its not good. Just being totally (and I mean totally) honest in one go is the only real way I think that you can hope to keep things going. Zoophilia is the kind of thing that can wreck the foundations of a relationship and if it does sometimes you need to get out sooner than later. Clinging on and on in the hope of an eventual change of mind would put alot of strain on both of you and may cause things to go tits up big style eventually. But in the end we can only advise and its a choice you have to make. You need to really consider your GF's feelings and more importantly not neglect your own then hopefully whatever happens you will know you made the right choice. Even if you don't realise straight away.
Very well said, DB. A 10 for you.LtD
What DB said-- And remember: People are who they are. If she's not good with it, trying to change her isn't fair to her, and may cause you personal grief that will last a lifetime.If you feel obligated to tell her, (and I'm not suggesting that), do so before marriage, etc.Consider this scenario: You wait to try to introduce the subject gradually. Doesn't go well. You're in court before the divorce judge. She introduces evidence into the court record.How likely are you to get the car, half the house, and visitation?Plan now to move to Iraq and live the rest of your life in a cave........
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