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so i first started getting interested sexually in my cat yrs ago, im now 20 and idk i just feel so wrong when doing stuff with him. i cant help myself but i just feel so bad after. for awhile i thought i had a chemical imbalance in my brain, but since joining this site ive realized im not alone. but y do i feel so morally wrong after nething physical with my cat and recently with my dog? some times i think i just get interested in these things cause i want sex yet ive been single for 6 months and havent gotten ne. idk im just wondering if neone can help me feel better bout this and explain y i enjoy doin stuff so much yet feel so wrong at the same time? thanks
Welcome to the forum first off, Secondly if it feels wrong to you then it probably is... Your feelings more than likely stem from your upbringing... If you ever do go further I'm afraid it's quite possible for you to feel even worse about the situation. Like I said, If it doesn't feel right then it probably isn't for you... Good luck in your decsion making...
I don't know how much I can add to this, Nitely seems to have given you the best answer, I feel. Honestly, I don't think anyone can make you feel better so much about your choices as let you know, you aren't alone. Being a Zoo is not easy, it can leave you in a rough spot with having to hide who you are and live your life almost in secret. There is a lot more involved with the choices you make here, then from a purely sexual standpoint. It can change your whole way of thinking in regards to all issues. There are many here who can offer you words of encouragement, support and share their vast knowledge. Take your time to go through the threads in the forum. Ask questions when your confused or even if you feel it may be a dumb one to ask.I wish you luck and hope your confusion can be eased with time and understanding.
If it doesn't fee right to you, stop doing it and find other sexual outlets. Only you can sort through your feelings on this. It may have something to do with your upbringing. It probably does, in fact. I felt guilty at first but the intense pleasure and satisfaction I got from it and the pleasure my mates appeared to experience essuaged those feelings pretty quickly.LTD
I don't think its simply as saying, "stop doing it" For the most part I believe that most sexual/shame issues are rooted deep in our own personal psychologies. You need to remember, our particular "fetish" has been around since before the dawn of civilization on earth. There's nothing unnatural about it. Heck, bestiality exists normally in nature. Over the centuries its been frustrated and morally twisted humans that have layered all kinds of taboo admonishes against varying kinds of sex. I think it would be more helpful if you try to get some help in dealing with sexual issues in general in your own personal life. Coming to grips and rooting out those things that are forcing you to feel bad, about what is essentially a natural act, will lead to a better place emotionally. Rather, than just suffering in silence, since simply not practicing won't make the thoughts go away. And it is in these thought, and not the physical acts themselves, that are causing you to suffer so. I hope this has helped.
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Yet another well thought out response from energydog I was active with two dogs yet I never completely got rid of lingering feelings of guilt over my actions. Part of me always thought it was wrong. Probably knowing my parents and family would be crushed if they found out. Their respect is very important to me, and I pretty sure I'd lose that if they knew. Thankfully me hubby never saw my k9 activities as a threat to our relationship, and rightly so. However I was getting sex outside of our marriage and he wasn't. it couldn't have always been easy for him seeing me continually catering to a dog's desire for sex.So sure, I know exactly what your talking about wolff421987
My first real post here, hi!As far as just stopping, from my perspective that could lead to worse problems, in fact, the worst periods of my life havent stemmed from guilt, but those times I tried denying who I really was. My advice is to relax, do what feels right, when it feels right. Be intelligent about your decisions, dont take undue chances, and dont endanger or harm anyone or anything in your activities... its all any decent person can do, no matter their orientation.One thing did stand out to me though, if you really feel its a possibility youre only engaging in this activity because of a lack of a human partner, then I would suggest some painstaking self-analysis.
I don't feel any moral issues with the subject, but I do still fear the fact that most of the outside world does (or claims to) have issues with zoo-luvin.Oh well, change the world one issue at a time. Ours will come.
After reading your questions I find it difficult to give just one answer. Personally I am not into cats. I think a lot of our feeling and beliefs have been pounded into us from an early age,"This is how it is done, do not do that, never touch them down there, that is wrong, we are not animals, animals only do that"If you are not forcing anybody or anything to do something against their will then where is the problem.
When I started reading more about this whole area, one of the things I remember was that the resource I was reading at the time said that some people do feel tremendous guilt after sex or at some stage along the line even just considering it .... that in itself is perfectly normal when you consider it is still deemed a taboo act in most societies these days when little else is sexually. Whether you can come to terms with that guilt or not is a different issue and only you can decide that. I guess I was lucky although I was prepared for the fact I might feel guilt having been forewarned .... I didn't.Energydog's answer reminded me that the same resource also discussed the history of bestiality through the ages and sort of mock discussions where a lot of the common arguments against bestiality had good and well reasoned answers to them. They certainly made me feel better at the time!Perhaps you should just take a break from it for a while to deal with this and any other issues you have ?
What you experience I think most of us have gone through in their lives. Acceptance is not an issue for other people, but first and foremost for ourselves. I have been a zoo for a long time and didn't feel fine with that. It took me years and years to accept myself being as I am. My problem wasn't other people (they wouldn't know, why should they!) or society (strong intolerance and taboos there - why should I care?). My problem was me. And I think this is about the crossroads you're right now.How did I resolve this? I asked myself, "Why do I think it's wrong?", and I came to thoughts like "Does the animal really like it?" and things like that. Since I'm still here you can guess that I managed to sort these things out. For myself: not for my family, not for strangers, not for society. It's difficult because the way you've been brought up, the way people think and behave around you tells you time and time again that it's wrong. It's not. It's just the majority of people saying so. A majority of people who don't know that animals are living, breathing, feeling beings that have a personality, a character, and needs beyond food and water. The need to bond, as we do (ok, maybe not so much in cats...). Feelings that go way deeper than "That's a nice dog". This may or may not include sex which, by the way, is only big deal in people, not at all in animals. For them, it's natural. Is it natural that we control our animals' sexuality, eliminating it most of the time? Is it right? Is it right if we have a deep understanding of our animals that we care for them in every need, also sexually? Aren't we obliged to do so?Many questions. Go out and seek what the root of your feelings are, both animal-wise and society-wise. My bet on you feeling bad is an inner conflict of these two. But don't expect miracles in just a few days, this goes deeper and may require some time. I am glad to help wherever I can.Good luck!Prank
Just stumbled upon this excellent thread. Great responses already from the usual suspects. This is a subject that does come up pretty often - perhaps even the most often - for people who are venturing into this realm of activity. When exploring new boundaries of sexual interest, sooner or later for most people the whole "guilty feeling" issue rears its head.The luckiest among us never really feel any guilt or regret; they simply accept and move forward, embracing who they are and what they have.For the rest of us, we question ourselves and our actions. How open-minded you are alleviates a lot of it, but anyone who was ever raised in an environment where such actions would have shocked and appalled those around you will tell you...much of what is "right" and what is "wrong" comes from the world (and the people) around us. As energy said, it's burned into our psyche.In all likelyhood, no one has ever looked you in the eyes and said, "You cannot have intercourse with animals. It is wrong." Why haven't they? Because they think they shouldn't have to tell you; it should be something that you just know, because you were raised to be upstanding, a good person. Or their idea of one, anyway.So at its core, guilt is really nothing more than your psyche's way of saying "What if insert important person(s) in your life here knew I did this?" It's your upbringing trying to make all the decisions for you. This is infinitely more burdensome if the people you are thinking of happen to be those dearest to you, such as parents or a spouse; silky hit that nail on the head perfectly in her post.This of course (coupled with the laws put in place by - surprise, surprise - society) leads to the majority of people in the zoo/beast world to practice their chosen lifestyle in private. Which while providing safety and security (no one knows that you are doing), really only amplifies the damage guilt can cause (i.e., "I'm having to keep this a secret because it's wrong").Those of use who accept this aspect of our lives know that it isn't wrong. Mating with an animal is not an abomination. It is not a sin. It is not blasphemous to the survival of the human race. It is not abnormal. You are not a freak for doing it.Yet the people (most of the general populace of the world, sadly) who are not into this way of life think that it is all of those things. Hence, the guilt.In the days leading up to my own first animal experience, I wrestled inwardly with such conflicting emotions. Oh what if I did something and my parents found out? I shouldn't feel like this, she's a dog not a human being. People around here are snide enough towards two people living together when they're not married...something like this would freak them out. There must be something wrong with me; I bet no one else out there has ever thought about doing this. (remember, no BeastForum back in those days ) Etc., etc.Opposite those thoughts were I can do this without hurting her. We can try a little, if it doesn't work we can stop. She comes to my bed and humps me, not anyone else (another story for another thread). Does she want me to? Do I really want to??It went on like this for some time. Then came that night, that first memorable night that led to more than a decade of more such encounters. The night my parents were out of town and we were alone, when she climbed up into my bed, then onto me, and I pushed my doubts and worries and fears aside and just gave in to the moment.Had it not been at a particularly lonely time in my life, nothing might have happened at all. But I was a young man, with a young man's desire, and sometimes the body goes forward on its own, dragging conscious along for the ride.I slipped out of my clothes, and there in my bed my grrl and I had sex with each other for the first time.It was ecstasy.Intense, powerful, different than what I'd experienced before with a woman. Not that I would say better, but different...unique on so many wavelengths.But as with so many of life's memorable moments, it only lasted so long. While I'm not a drug-user, I can only liken it to experiencing a high, only to crash back down and feel empty, even saddened.And yet...shimmering beneath the layers of self-doubt there was an excitement, and joy that hadn't been there before. It was later that night, after a fair bit of dwelling on (and accepting), that I simply decided I had nothing to feel guilty about. Being able to conquer those guilty feelings can be quite a battle...but the victory is worth every moment of struggle.Sex with another species is liberating, pure. It is freedom melded with desire. How paltry guilt is, compared to it.
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